How do you cope with depression and crisis?

[Snow_Flake]

Hey

So i have some problems like i always have :(

So im 20 years old a student i study Comunication and networktechnics in collage and i have been depressed for a half a year now bicuse of stress trying to fix my grades and alot have happend latly in my life, my brother is wating a kid and my grand parent resently passed away and all that have had a large inpack on me, me and my family fight all the time like screams at eachoter and swering alot witch have let to me not talking to my family alot bicuse it Always ends in a fight with my mom or dad start crying or screams at me while were having dinner and i havent been in school for like 2 month not in a row but form tme to time so the money i uset to get bicuse i study with i dont get it anymore witch makes me poor so now i cant dive my car or do anyting, bicuse im stressed out and have sleeping problems and i now have to pay back alot of money bicuse of some problems with my school and i really dont have that kind of money,i have around 6-7 Fs i have no real friend those i have abuse me they want to borrow money or want to be driven some were or whant me to hack somehitng and destroy things for others, im tired of sitting alone eating luch and in class and no one to talk to and on top of it if i dont turn ALL my Fs to Es my mom will kick me out the house and theres like a month until i gratitude and she have told me multiply times that she doesnt care what i do to my life.

Im so tired of having it like this thats why i spend most of my time by computer talking to others and playing games just anything to make me forget about the sitty life i have for some time, i know i sould fix my grades and start looking for a work but i dont really feel strong to do it right now

i dont want othes to feel bad for me or anything i just want to know how you guys and girls deals with problems

What would you have done?
how do you deal with problems?

im sorry for all the miss spellings :p

[quido]

smoke a bowl, have a beer, and convince yourself to get over shit and do better

[Bazia]

Whenever I start to feel sorry for myself I remember that there are countries out there with 5% literacy rates where people are born incredibly poor with zero opportunities to change their living situation.

By winning the birth lottery and being born in a country with public education and economic freedom you are pretty blessed, be grateful about what's good in your life instead of focusing on what's not great about it.

[Bazia]

Also in my opinion college isn't right for everyone, or maybe it's just not right for you right now.

It's a hard reality to accept that it's just not the path for you. Plenty of other ways to make a comfortable living if you feel like it's making your life shitty.

[Azure]

Work hard in school so you have a better chance of doing what you want in life and getting away from your stressful environment. It sounds like your home is causing the depression.

Don't feel bad or beat yourself up more about it. This happens to other people too.

Life WILL get better. Perhaps even easier (if you work towards making it easier). It IS possible. I know that I felt totally hopeless when I was your age. If my adult self could travel back in time and tell my young self, this shit is fix-able-it-will-be-ok... wow... would have made things better.

[Yumyums Inmahtumtums]

Bazia dropping some bombs of truth on this thread.

Change your perspective and just focus on the good.

[India]

Exercise helps immensely with stress. It will also help clear your mind and allow you to think things through. If you don't have access to a gym of any kind, try running or walking. Hell even if you do have access to a gym, running / walking are still great stress relievers

[Orruar]

It sounds like you hit the jackpot on shitty parents, so getting out of that environment should be a priority. There's nothing wrong with taking time off of college to get a job and learn a skill that can make you some $$. People may complain about the economy and job market, but the truth is that if you're willing to work hard and take pride in your work, you'll do well. Being independent and self reliant can do wonders for your outlook on life. You can come back to finish college later if that's the way you want to go, but it's really not critical for many careers.

[Raavak]

Talk to a psychologist. There are things you can do to move on and a psychologist can help. You can control your past, your parents, etc but educated you can control your future.

[LulzSect]

You could always end it and reroll.

[ymw]

You lost me at "i study Comunication and networktechnics in collage".

I'll give it a 6/10, only because some people actually bit.

[moklianne]

Having had my own bouts with serious depression on and off throughout my life, I can tell you its not easy. Most people won't understand and haven't been in that situation.

You have to be pretty stable emotionally in order to get the most out of college. It sounds like its just compounding the issue. I went to college right after highschool and it didn't work out well. About 5 years afterwards I went back and did much, much better. I had become much more emotionally stable and driven after a few crappy jobs to get an education. Are your parents paying for college? If so, that sounds like its the root of their frustration and why they yell so much at you. Paying for it out of your own pocket makes it more real and you take it more seriously as well. Something to consider.

Spend time doing hobbies that you truly enjoy. For me, it was photography, hiking, and teaching myself MSDOS (I'm dating myself now). I still enjoy them to this day and find my inner-peace while doing them. The idea is that you want to stop the spiraling affect of sadness into depression. Focusing on something else helps that. After a while you'll notice that as soon as sadness is triggered, you are already in the habit of shifting that emotion to something else more positive.

It sounds like you need to ditch your friends or at least stand up for yourself in front of them and see how it plays out.

Above all, never forget, it really does get better down the road. You just may have to make some changes to get there.

[Softcore PK]

Exercise helps immensely with stress. It will also help clear your mind and allow you to think things through. If you don't have access to a gym of any kind, try running or walking. Hell even if you do have access to a gym, running / walking are still great stress relievers

This is absolutely true. A person honestly can't expect to be happy or even relaxed without exercise. Another aspect of your life to investigate would be nutrition... it's very important what we put into ourselves, and this is something modern psychology tends to overlook for some reason. Strive for biological homeostasis and the rest becomes much easier. I'm opinionated and biased about nutrition (USDA standards are way off) but if you want to pm me and chat that's totally cool :)

And some hardcore atheists may disagree, but the happiest people share two things in common: meaningful friendships, and religion. Places of worship are great places to find both :)

Beyond that lifelong adventure, it would be good to work hard at developing a sense of equanimity. You can do this through therapy (I suggest cognitive/behavioral), practicing meditation/prayer, picking up a hobby like learning a musical instrument, or reading a ton if that's your thing.

Depression and anxiety are among the most easily treatable mental conditions, but they take a lot of time and sincere effort. Take things one day at a time. Any small step toward improvement should be celebrated.

[Lojik]

Pretty much what everyone else said, and stop playing everquest

[Bamz4l]

I go thru life with the realization that if another human can do it, than so can I (and probably better). That has helped immensely, and I'll surely be making 100k+ a year in no time.

[radditsu]

This is a troll thread. Stop posting in a troll thread.

[Ennewi]

Eh, even if it is a troll thread it's still a worth replying because of the odds someone who actually has depression will read it. Have talked to more than a few players in game who've run into this issue, so it wouldn't be too surprising.

Just reiterating what has already posted here but yeah, a therapist really helps, someone with an outside perspective who isn't a douche. Exercise gives control over at least one aspect in your life and it's immediate and tangible, unlike college or planning out your future. Exercise and add in music. You'd be surprised how much a long jog with a good soundtrack can help. Get more sleep if you aren't, exercise will make it easier. Don't force yourself into social situations you aren't adept at but instead look for people with shared interests so you can start to distance yourself from the situation at home.

Comparing your situation to others only works short-term for perspective imo. Forcing yourself to feel less bad about your situation just because someone else is worse off makes about as much sense as feeling less happy about your situation because someone else is better off. And even if you did do that you still wouldn't have anyone to relate to, whereas even people in third world countries have that, for better or worse.

If you can't find a therapist or anyone you can talk to than check out different authors and artists. Also, consider community college or a technical school if you haven't. The lower tuition costs and smaller classes should decrease stress levels, than you can set short-term goals, work on achieving a 3.75gpa and whatnot. Once you've done that, hopefully the situation at home will have improved or you'll have other options available.

[Bamz4l]

yes, mental health disorders affects everyone, even people not suffering directly, you are suffering indirectly. And it is great to bring the issue to the fore-front

[loramin]

This is a troll thread. Stop posting in a troll thread.

*EDIT:* If someone really did want depression advice there are about 5 million other sites better suited to giving it than this forum.

[Ennewi]

*EDIT:* If someone really did want depression advice there are about 5 million other sites better suited to giving it than this forum.

Better suited but impersonal. Sometimes the best place to start is with people you interact with on a daily basis.

[moklianne]

Better suited but impersonal. Sometimes the best place to start is with people you interact with on a daily basis.

Also, EQ is a shared interest. A stepping stone to interacting with others that may have had issues like this (ie: chat in game). Face to face confrontation or even audio chat on this may be too difficult at first.

[JayN]

Smoking weed is the only final solution ive found in making light of the demonstrable world we live in

[tekniq]

to be completely honest, you should stop sitting in front of a computer and playing EQ; you're only falling into a slippery slope and hiding from your problems behind your fungi tunic. playing video games is not healthy for you right now and it's not going to fix any of your problems.

you should join the army or something..the good thing is you're still very young. what you do in your 20-30 will usually shape the rest of your life.

[Glenzig]

to be completely honest, you should stop sitting in front of a computer and playing EQ; you're only falling into a slippery slope and hiding from your problems behind your fungi tunic. playing video games is not healthy for you right now and it's not going to fix any of your problems.

you should join the army or something..the good thing is you're still very young. what you do in your 20-30 will usually shape the rest of your life.

Join the army?? He wants to NOT be depressed for the rest of his life. Bad advice.

[Swish]

This is a troll thread. Stop posting in a troll thread.

Nobody spells "mom" as "mom" anywhere in the EU.

Some American jerkoff on a troll account.

Good thread topic though, and some interesting responses :p

[Bazia]

Military is a great option for some people, like college though it isn't right for everybody.

[Rellapse40]

depression n crisis are for pussies if u cant handle things just jump off a bridge

[Ennewi]

depression n crisis are for pussies if u cant handle things just jump off a bridge

http://youtu.be/7ZVWIELHQQY?t=4m54s

[stormlord]

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i dont want othes to feel bad for me or anything i just want to know how you guys and girls deals with problems

What would you have done?
how do you deal with problems?

im sorry for all the miss spellings :p
Don't let the computer swallow you up and make you forget about your RL problems. That's fine if you're a responsible person and just need to relax after a day of work, but it's not fine for someone who needs to be more responsible. Your parents probably don't understand your computer problem. All they know is they want you to be real because they care about you and want you to have a future. Forgive them.

We know what happens to ppl who use their computer to escape. Their attitude falls. Their health declines. Sedentary lifestyles are a recipe for early death. They lose their job skills. They become unemployable. For someone who's already severely disabled and not employable, computers are one way for them to cope with their disability and also a way to potentially become employable again. And yet for all people, no matter whether they have a job or not or have a disability or not, computers can become a unhealthy habit.

Remember that a coward might live another day but they'll have a thousand nightmares, whereas a courageous person might not live as long, but their dreams will be good enduring ones.

[Kevynne]

self harm.
sharp objects are my best friends.

also weed.

[Kevynne]

Exercise helps immensely with stress. It will also help clear your mind and allow you to think things through. If you don't have access to a gym of any kind, try running or walking. Hell even if you do have access to a gym, running / walking are still great stress relievers

india you don't play anymore.
and that saddens chells :(