Originally Posted by Patriam1066 (Post 2661955)

Single white moms don't exist. They're like black people who tip at restaurants

Originally Posted by Ahldagor (Post 2661966)

I'm a product of a single white mom along with my sister. Her struggle, 2 kids (no child support due to a crack addict father), full time job, and nursing school, taught me to work. She sacrificed damn near everything for us. It's not a lack of fathers, but a lack of basic discipline and an instilled, innate respect for other things that's the issue. The hyper individualistic culture we have now is what's undoing the fabric of unity. Just look at the lack of sensical, basic ethics in argumentation now and days because people are too caught in being "right".

Originally Posted by skarlorn (Post 2661980)

Individualism is the ideal that the needs of your ego must be sated at the expense of the group or family unit. It's a devaluation of collective health and hypervaluation of the illusion of pride. This ideal also leads to more single motherhood because both mothers and fathers are valuing the family unit less and their own carnal lust or need to be dominate in the relationship more.

hope that helps clear it up for you

Originally Posted by Teppler (Post 2661973)

Oh brother... Just look at the statistics, it tells you pretty plainly. It's not some abstract claim of 'individuality' whatever that hell that means, it's stuff like single motherhood that's ruining society. Now stop being delusional and take your first step in uncovering what modern day policies are pushing single motherhood rates much higher.

Originally Posted by skarlorn (Post 2661980)

Individualism is the ideal that the needs of your ego must be sated at the expense of the group or family unit. It's a devaluation of collective health and hypervaluation of the illusion of pride. This ideal also leads to more single motherhood because both mothers and fathers are valuing the family unit less and their own carnal lust or need to be dominate in the relationship more.

hope that helps clear it up for you

Originally Posted by skarlorn (Post 2661928)

I definitely agree that the disintegration of family strength creates mental health issues which lead to catastrophic personal problems.

I read an interesting book about spirituality as a means of community connection - no matter what religion or whatever, basically if people felt connected with their community and participated in life-enforcing events (dancing, singing, weddings, group rituals), there was an improvement in the population's mental health and lowering of addiction.

However, I disagree that the problem is multi-culturalism. America has always been multi-cultural and I consider it one of our greatest strengths. I think the de-valuation of immediate family is more a symptom of American culture over-valuing individualism as opposed to valuing the family unit over one's self. I certainly was raised with ideals that led to choosing isolated individualism in prideful pursuits, and I would also argue that these same ideals led me to cocaine abuse as a form of narcissism in my early 20s.

The best things in life are basic. Good food and being around people you love. Meeting other people. Learning to be happy for others.

Vladimir Putin ( my favorite world leader) does a good job of really encouraging nuclear family values. I wish he was our tyrant.