Originally Posted by Itchybottom
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CBT is pretty retarded, but it's really the only thing in psychiatry with enough non-correlation evidence to be conceived as real science. It doesn't work for everyone but it's a good foot forward. If it fails, at least you tried something. I'm sure there are plenty of low cost clinics in your area. Talk to your general practitioner (or any walk-in clinic) for a list. Just tell them you're bummed and you want to try to sort things out with proven methodology. Life is really all about putting one foot in the other, and moving forward. If you don't like something, keep walking. Life is too short to get anal retentive and upset about others' viewpoints. They can't hear your thoughts, they can't live your life, they can't give you practical advice in a situation because they don't have the skeletons in the closet you do. Go audit some group counseling sessions locally, listen to how they all use each other as a crutch, how admitting to having a problem somehow gives them a false sense of victory. People are kidding themselves if they're always happy and nothing phases them. Just most of us that are successful in life, put on a good show because we're taught that people prey on weakness and compete. Obsessing over positive and negative emotions and comparing yourself to others is self defeating.
I was raised Buddhist and followed the precepts for 17 years of my life, the only thing I kept from that experience is the breathing exercises. Perhaps you should give it a shot: Sit down, however you feel comfortable (Most Buddhists, and Aikido students sit in "seiza" -- no reason to discipline your body if the problem is the mind though), close your eyes. Take a deep breath in through your nose, hold it for as long as it's comfortable, exhale through your mouth. Again, this time, think about the act of breathing. Envision just that, the air going in, and coming out for a while. Ponder the meaning (it's different for everyone), listen to the quiet. If you get an itch, think "Hmm, itch", realize the urge to scratch is just part of being alive. Ignore it if possible and just add it to your meditation, or scratch it, it really doesn't matter. The idea here is to just trigger a mental reset and exist in the present. After a while you're able to just breathe for a check out, that's when it's time to start thinking about other things. The breeze from a fan near by. The chirp of a bird, the honking of a horn. Just try to mentally image it all and find deeper meaning. Find things to appreciate about even the most annoying of noises.
Not all animals in a group are alike, though the human animal is generally considered to be a social one; not all of us are social. The people in this thread giving advice about how they fixed their problems by getting involved in something with others have just found a method to not constantly be lost in thought. It's all escapism, it's just been labelled as acceptable escapism in society. The key to life, though often stated moderation, is really just staying occupied and learning to have respect for individual thought. You don't have to agree with someone, or rage about some stupid fuck that has a retarded opinion on the matter (no matter how wrong it is), you just have to accept that it is their reality and not your own. Don't get caught up on making them see the truth, or how you're superior because you understand the truth, just co-exist and try to find common ground. Not all men are equal, but don't let that get in your way. Everyone has something in common, everyone has something to share to contribute to your experiences in life.
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