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Originally Posted by Jibartik
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I think if you had to describe why exactly society is collapsing, it'd be because this was the melinial experience.
No offence intended unsung, you do you, but the overall experience you describe not only sounds like hell, but it sounds like we've turned relationships and dating into a souless buffet that is at best comparable to a tiktok feed where you just zoom through it until your brain is smoothed to a fine marble.
Stop ghosting lol though lol just say thanks for the great evening, but Im just not feeling a connection, I hope you undersatnd and take care!
then you can ghost, but send that at least first its like nothing [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.] |
The Think Before you Sleep YouTuber broke down some problems with online dating that sounded similar
The biggest problem for online dating for everyone is that your pictures are everything. The vast majority of people are going to be deciding based almost entirely on pictures. It is a buffet of shallowness, I agree. It also means that people who can take a good picture (or doctor one, I’ve seen a lot of that), are at a huge advantage, regardless of how attractive they actually are
The next is that the thousands of choices makes everyone extremely selective especially women. Now this is obviously going to vary based on who you go after. I am on the shallow side so I tend to go after not the absolute prettiest, but close. There are many girls I see on there who have a few flaws, like thin lips or slightly too wide a face, but actually have a decent/healthy/slender (whatever you’re into) body. And I think man, I bet a lot of guys this girl has right swiped has left swiped her back (left means rejected on all apps). I bet if I didn’t, she would be all over me. But I just couldn’t do it, because of my shallowness. BUT, dating apps did not make me this way. I have always put too much value on looks
I got off in a tangent but yeah those are the biggest flaws of online. The other girl I’m dating that my fam set me up with hates social media and dating apps and says she has no interest in meeting people that way. A huge potential loss, because she is quite pretty and if she put any time or effort into them she could make a killing. But yeah if you can meet someone organically like through friends or something that’s always going to be ideal. Whatever the connection is, whether it’s friend of a friend or a co-worker or whatever, you get a trial run of their personality before you start dating them