ok first
https://wiki.project1999.com/Players:Technical
https://wiki.project1999.com/Duxa < one of the best tools for EQ.
If you have a good fresh install use the all in one.
I lag some in EC and my rig is an razyn 1800X xfx580 x2 32GB ram M.2 evo 500GB
I normally hit around 30ish ms ping times to the web server. I just try to stay out of EC unless I need to be there.
The all in one tool really helped me out, also you can change your UI hide bodies,names and what ever else to lower your needs.
Also what internet type are you using fiber 50/50 or copper 30/30?
The project 1999 servers are on the eastern seaboard of the US. Distance is a factor also.