https://wiki.project1999.com/Glowing_Stone_Band
for sight, cheap and easy.
https://wiki.project1999.com/Frozen_Shard
OR
https://wiki.project1999.com/Rabid_Chokidai_Fang
OR if you're on a budget this will do just fine.
https://wiki.project1999.com/Crystalline_Spider_Fang
for weapon pre epic for your best backstab damage, backstab is your bread and butter.
Barbarians are nice for slam to interrupt casters, but it also uses your backstab timer so use it sparingly or lose tons of DPS. Barbs have very high starting STR and STA, which are the only real stats you should worry about at creation because agility and dexterity are...useless. The only thing you really want to proc is avatar and thats way down the road. Procs = dead rogues.
As far as rogue only gear? Poison washed spaulders are the only thing i can really think of outside the quested gear thats really worth while. Most of the rogue quests are kind of poopy with velious gear. As far as gear goes? Worry about HP, resists, sta, STR in that order. Str is super easy to cap w buffs, stamina less so but rogues dont get THAT big of a benefit from it.
And yes, soloing as a rogue pretty much is the worst. If you can find someone to fear kite with, would recommend.