So, something I found in my never ending search to prevent crashing was from a Dev on Day Break's forum,
https://forums.daybreakgames.com/eq/...failed.253742/ It was one of the two changes I made, the other being I set my game to run off of one core at random as the wiki suggest.
Please add this line to your eqclient.ini:
GraphicsDLL9=EQGraphicsDX9.DLL
I also recommend updating the existing CPUAffinity lines:
CPUAffinity0=-1
CPUAffinity1=-1
CPUAffinity2=-1
CPUAffinity3=-1
CPUAffinity4=-1
I haven't crashed since my original post, but I do freeze. I've only had three in game freezes since that day, and alt+enter twice works every time so far. Once I finish my level I'll probably take out the .DLL file to see if the game still runs fine. Try to figure out which one is the actual fix.
I did dg_VooDoo, but I was still trying to use EQWin for borderless. I found Borderless Gaming and use it now, it just makes your mouse clicks slightly off. Figured I'd toss another fix out there, the .DLL addition to your eqclient.ini I know the issue is frustrating as hell.