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Originally Posted by Ciderpress
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I agree if it's in a totally vain narcissistic way cause you just wanna hook up and bang mindlessly, but making yourself more appealing to the opposite sex so you can meet somebody you really connect with and maybe start a family would certainly improve your quality of life, and theirs.
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The trap is anyone who attempts to look good to meet a partner is very likely to stop looking good once they feel “secure” in their relationship. Which causes all sorts of problems because physical attraction is a part of intimacy. I have a particular very large bone to pick with this motivation because my dad divorced my mom because she put on weight when she had me and (in his eyes) never tried hard enough to lose it. So he eventually cheated on and divorced her. There’s issues with both parties in this scenario, moreso with my dad which is why I didn’t talk to him for like 6 years, but this is absolutely not an uncommon story. It has happened probably tens of thousands of times throughout the years to various couples and torn relationships and families apart
I think that attempting to look good for one’s partner is a form of respect (unless having a very good reason to not such as illness), but that to me still shouldn’t be the ONLY reason ever
Doing anything for another person whether that’s getting in shape, quitting smoking or drugs, etc, puts all the power in the other person’s hands. As soon as something goes wrong with that person, we lose our motivation. We need to do it for us most of all
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