Game Suggestions

[Daviticus]

Looking for some suggestions on a game to play. A buddy and I have both been recently divorced and are getting a place together, and we will both have most evenings and weekends free to play. I started MMO gaming with Everquest in 99 (raided through Time before moving to EQ2) and he started with WoW.

Features I am looking for:

Subscription or free to play - not really interested in pay to win
Fantasy or Space based
Solo/Duo/Group play
Multi Group Raiding
Decent graphics but I did not like WoW so much because of the "cartoonish" graphics
Non-linear progression (a decent combination of quests/grind)
Some penalty for death (like original everquest) I hate the "dummed down" games

I know I may be asking too much, if someone could upgrade the original EQ graphics, I would be in heaven. Please only serious recommendations.

Lord Daviticus Maximus
Paladin of Marr