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Originally Posted by Cecily
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My life improved dramatically once I stopped looking for, albeit perfectly valid, things to blame my problems on. I mean I was right, in a way, but looking for and finding external reasons why things suck absolves any responsibility on your own end, which is ultimately paralyzing. Most of that perceived adversity ended up just being phantoms in my head when I finally turned to face it.
Locus of control is an important psychological concept. Do you have control over events in your life or are you at the mercy of external factors? Pick one. Either answer is right. It comes down to perspective. The thing is, people with an internal locus of control fare a lot better in life.
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You can look at life one of two ways.
1. I’m blessed to not be in Africa getting shit on by Ebola morons
2. Life sucks that I’m not rich with a Colombian girlfriend
Both things are true from most people’s objective positions in life. Life could almost always be either easier or harder. It’s dedinitely all about perspective. Also, it’s absolitely critical to avoid social isolation and find friends that are emotionally intelligent and empowering. My youngest son went through it seems 2 or 3 groups of absolutely toxic friends before he figured this out