Serious question about Love, Sex, Romance & Relationships, adults only

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Wondering what you guys think and kind of just want to vent some frustration.
Seriously.

I love my fiance, she's great, our relationship is stronger than most, we are both open minded individuals and feel free to explore things in and out of the bedroom.

I feel like no topic is taboo and there is nothing I would ever feel the need to hide from her. I respect her feelings and want to make her happy and all that.

But as a man, sometimes I get really frustrated that it's my responsibility to set the mood and turn her on. I feel like I always have to light the candles, get the massage oil out, do all the foreplay and if I want to have any chance at getting a blow job I better go down on her first and hope she returns the favor.

I just feel like there is romantic love making, but there should also be time for straight up getting busy. I feel like I should come home and be surprised greeted by her dropping to her knees and unzipping my fly every once in awhile or I should be able to kiss her on the neck from behind and bend her over in the kitchen every now and again.

She says that's not the way she works and that maybe some girls can get turned on that fast but not her and that she has to be in the right mood etc...

Am I being selfish and unreasonable? Maybe I watch too much porn and expect too much?