This server is toxic

[kylok]

Originally Posted by BlackBellamy [You must be logged in to view images. Log in or Register.]

I want to make a blueberry pie. I go outside and find a blueberry patch. After a while another berry picker arrives and asks if they can pick from the same patch because they're making jam. If I share the patch, I won't have enough for the pie I want to make. I'll have to spend more time finding another patch. Should I inconvenience myself so another doesn't have to? What is my duty to their wants?

No one here needs pie or jam. There is no prize for the best pie. No award for the jam. We just want it because it's tasty.

It's normal human behavior. People set goals for themselves, other people do too, and sometimes these goals conflict. Then they argue about it, someone wins or loses or there is a compromise. "Toxic" should not be used to describe human behavior because it dehumanizes it and it dehumanizes the person it describes.

Very well put, thank you for that.