Just not the same...

Zenren · #1 06-10-2015, 07:06 PM

I'm not feeling it... Yesterday I came back after about six months absence. I made two levels on my magician (got from 20 almost to 23). I was stoked and had a blast with a fun group. I logged on today and tried to go to the same camp in Mistmore, hoping to make 24th. I even bought my spells, LOL. I'll be honest this game is one of the few things I've wanted to get back to in a long time, so I can't tell you how frustrated and depressed I was when one guy, someone who had grouped with me yesterday, wouldn't let me in the group, because he didn't want to group with casters. I tried to find other places to level and the few I found were either camped by a group being PLed by a guildmate and didn't want to share the experience, or I just had horrible bad luck. (Had mobs pop on top of me after I cleared a camp.) I was really looking forward to today and one person, because he wanted to be an elitist ass, set in motion a chain of events that ruined my day. I'm sure he doesn't care, "don't cry bro", you know, but I really hope karma bites him in the ass.

So my message is this, just because you've made it to 60th and twinked your rogue out with all the nicest gear, doesn't mean you have to be a douche and not allow others into your group unless they're sufficiently twinked. You don't have to ostracize a random stranger from a camp you're being PLed at because you're afraid it might take 15 more minutes for you to level. There's this thing called common decency and at one point EQ was known for that. You didn't steal someone's kill, you didn't camp a lowbie spot when lowbies needed to level there, you didn't behave like an elitist tool. I'm not sure where those days went, but I sure would like to see them come back. As a returning player, one who played EQ from the start, I can tell you this isn't the EQ I knew. Maybe while we're reminiscing about the old days and returning to those glory days, we can remember how people behaved back then. Lend other people a hand. Let someone in the group that needs the experience. Don't worry about how fast you're making it to 60th if it means you have to treat someone else like a douche.

Itap · #2 06-10-2015, 07:17 PM

Perhaps you're not 12 anymore and you don't think killing orcs satisfies the nerd urge.

Zenren · #3 06-10-2015, 07:22 PM

See above to see what I'm talking about.

Rickson · #4 06-10-2015, 07:32 PM

Hey Zenren,

I have experienced situations like this and then I have experienced people helping more than ever on live. You just have to remember that no matter where you go, you'll get people who suck and people who are awesome. This server has an amazing and helpful community, but you are still going to find some lame elitists at times as you would in anything you do.

Just the other day, an ogre handed me some large banded when he was running by because he noticed I needed it. That's awesome! Hopefully one bad night doesn't get you feeling sour about the whole community.

Meg · #5 06-10-2015, 07:38 PM

I've had a day when someone just gave me 400p for no reason and I've had a day when I spent hours just trying to get a bind in GFay. If you like the game itself, then stick around through the bad days because you'll have good days, too.

jarshale · #6 06-10-2015, 07:45 PM

You don't have to invite someone into your group. There are a million other places to level.

Zenren · #7 06-10-2015, 07:59 PM

jarshale- you don't have to save a baby from drowning in an inch of water, but there are certain things that are considered decent (and normal acts according to society). The restaurant is full, you're sitting alone at a table for six. A couple asks if you mind if they sit at the table, do you say no? See, that's what I'm talking about. There are certain rules that define whether someone is decent or not. It seems like people get on the internet an they just don't care. I don't know if these people were in EQ back in 1999, but if they were they obviously forgot some of the rules we followed.

I was really wanting to quit, but I do like EQ and the last time I left it was because of something similar (a guy kept training me in Unrest because I was taking an odd mob from the courtyard that his group (a guild group that wouldn't let me join) was at. In the old days there never was a single camp in the Courtyard, how was I supposed to know these guys weren't being douches... anyways, after the third corpse run and a bunch of irritating messages, I left. I came back because I got nostalgic and my first night back was great. I had a blast. But today, not so much. Before I nerd raged, I logged off. Well after I nerd raged. I'll get over it, but is it too much to ask people to treat others with respect? When did compassion become a bad thing?

myriverse · #8 06-11-2015, 10:18 AM

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The restaurant is full, you're sitting alone at a table for six. A couple asks if you mind if they sit at the table, do you say no? See, that's what I'm talking about.

Don't understand. I would never in a million years be open to someone I didn't know sitting at a restaurant table with me. Look, if a restaurant is full, people wait until it isn't or they find another restaurant. Asking to join in is intruding on their dinner and privacy. It's rude. That's the rule of etiquette.

B4EQWASCOOL · #9 06-11-2015, 10:59 AM

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Don't understand. I would never in a million years be open to someone I didn't know sitting at a restaurant table with me. Look, if a restaurant is full, people wait until it isn't or they find another restaurant. Asking to join in is intruding on their dinner and privacy. It's rude. That's the rule of etiquette.

TIL: rude to ask for a group. Intrusion and bad etiquette. K.

Tuljin · #10 06-11-2015, 11:27 AM

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TIL: rude to ask for a group. Intrusion and bad etiquette. K.

lol this guy gets it

Being a Mage has something to do with it too. Even though mage pets shred and are OP at lower levels the morons of this server still don't "want to play with casters" and have absolutely no interest in learning spell mechanics or how to play a caster (besides one that sits on their ass and CHs all day on the EZ ride to 60 and coattails their way into groups in hard Kunark dungeons when they are horrible at EQ) Few Mages on the server due to this idiocy, tons of clerics and Iksar monks due to this idiocy. Before Chardok AOE, there were very few 60 Wizards and Mages.