Loading Game in Windowed Mode

[MaSQue]

What happens is .............

I click EQ icon to load game
it goes straight into full screen aka black screen
I click alt/enter and it goes to halfscreen windoed mode
I log in and it goes to server select in windowed mode STILL
I click P99 and it begins loading the server and goes straight to fullscreen/black screen


I need it to load from the start in windowed mode like my laptop does.
btw this is a brand new machine thats never ran emu before

and yes its EQ Titanium I am trying to run.