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11-28-2017, 04:50 AM
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OP, if you were fat and unhappy, and found a way to lose weight and worked really hard at it, and now you're thinner and feel better and are happy about it, that's great. And I can understand the desire to proselytize. Whenever people make big, difficult changes in their lives that make them happier, there's often that desire to spread it to others. That's why we all know that one super religious person who strikes up conversations about Jesus with complete strangers.
But you don't have to put other people down to make your point. And also, and I hope this would go without saying, anyone looking to lose weight should consult their doctor. Not advertisements. Not the internet. Not celebrities. Not books, even those with smiling men in lab coats on the front. And not forum posts tinged with some pretty severe lingering self-hatred. More to the point, eating healthy is important, and it becomes increasingly important as you get older, but this is true of everyone regardless of weight. That skinny guy you know who eats sweets and spaghetti and deep fried whatever all the time and never gains a pound? Well, he might not be fat, but he definitely isn't healthy. The two aren't one in the same. In fact, diets which are successful at helping people lose weight can be dangerous to their health. Because as it turns out, weight and health aren't strongly correlated. Those low-carb, high-animal-protein diets, for instance, absolutely do help you lose weight. They're also terribly dangerous to your health. There's a lot of bad science and outright quackery about health and weight flying around out there, because our society is obsessed with image, and it's easy to part frightened people from their money with promises of making the bad thing go away, so there are multibillion dollar industries designed to do just that. If you wanna lose weight, look into the actual science of health. Learn how to parse scientific abstracts. Read actual published papers from reputible health and science organizations. At the very least, don't trust anything anybody says if they're trying to sell you something. Although you might wanna ask yourself why you want to lose weight in the first place. Look at OP for instance. The first thing he said was about physical attractiveness and sex. This suggests he probably isn't happy with his love life. I think he'll be disappointed to find, having lost weight, that his romantic woes won't suddenly disappear. Attraction is immutable, and personality and behavior counts for most of that. Women who rejected him before won't suddenly be attracted to him now that he's thinner. He probably assumed their rejection was due to his weight, but he'll find out soon enough that it wasn't. ... Hmm. I wish society wasn't so obsessed with weight. It's sad to think that so many people are so distressed over something so unimportant. | ||
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11-28-2017, 11:35 AM
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Now you are right about straight male dating. Getting in shape isn't how you get a girlfriend. That is done through various courting strategies that involve approaching her and being comfortable enough in her presence. Some find their physical appearance helps the feeling comfortable enough part. What getting in shape is really for when it comes to straight male dating: you can try your luck with more attractive girls. You go to the gym right? Well you can probably get a girl that goes to the gym and has a nicer body like you do. I hate to say it -- but its pretty easy to pick up chubby or homely rich girls as a good looking guy. Some guys make a living off that. It just gives you more to work with. A lot of guys are happy losing weight when their older just to have better sex with their wife. | |||
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Last edited by JurisDictum; 11-28-2017 at 11:46 AM..
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