Serious question about Love, Sex, Romance & Relationships, adults only

[dredge]

Wondering what you guys think and kind of just want to vent some frustration.
Seriously.

I love my fiance, she's great, our relationship is stronger than most, we are both open minded individuals and feel free to explore things in and out of the bedroom.

I feel like no topic is taboo and there is nothing I would ever feel the need to hide from her. I respect her feelings and want to make her happy and all that.

But as a man, sometimes I get really frustrated that it's my responsibility to set the mood and turn her on. I feel like I always have to light the candles, get the massage oil out, do all the foreplay and if I want to have any chance at getting a blow job I better go down on her first and hope she returns the favor.

I just feel like there is romantic love making, but there should also be time for straight up getting busy. I feel like I should come home and be surprised greeted by her dropping to her knees and unzipping my fly every once in awhile or I should be able to kiss her on the neck from behind and bend her over in the kitchen every now and again.

She says that's not the way she works and that maybe some girls can get turned on that fast but not her and that she has to be in the right mood etc...

Am I being selfish and unreasonable? Maybe I watch too much porn and expect too much?

[Hasbinlulz]

Your first mistake is expecting anything from a romantic partner.

Try to get rid of your expectations and just "be" with her for like a week. Stop trying to make anything happen, just be there, be yourself. Then ask yourself: "Am I having a good time?"

The answer to that question will inform your ultimate question.

[Hasbinlulz]

Also, there is no right way to treat someone. Individuals have unique standards and things that get them off. If you want a woman who will allow you to express your romantic side and fulfill your chase role, then a freaky deek that wants to get busy every time you're in an elevator probably isn't your best bet. However, if you want to pop money shots on your spouses face twice a day, then your hard-to-get lady friend is probably equally as unsuited.

[Hasbinlulz]

However, if you want the lady on the street and the freak in the sheets ideal, you have to either get lucky with an untrained noob or be a tryhard without seeming to trying hard.

It's p. dumb.

[Hasbinlulz]

Quad post, I must be mad.

[Halfelfbard]

Ur girl sounds boring as hell. Boring and basic, she will only get worse as you get older. Sorry man...but that does not sound like fun at all.

She sounds like a lazy fuck too. Prob lays like there like a stump.

Just come home from work and flop ur shit out at her, and see what happens. What i would do. Add a little wildness to ur home.

[Snufz]

Your first mistake was giving two shits about what she says she wants.

If you think any girl in the history of the universe gets turned on by a man that's a pushover and does what she says, you are wrong.

Do what you want and be aggressive.

You know why divorce rates are so high now a days? Because men aren't men anymore and women are bored to shit with them.

[Charlton Heston]

You are a castrated coward by being her domesticated animal

[Lexical]

Posting this topic in RnFs is probably not the best idea, but it sounds like you might need to amp up your sexiness if you want more spontaneous sex.

[Doors]

My first advice to you is to ignore anything hasbinbad tells you.